Question:
Assalamu Alaikum,
What is the ruling on marriage without living together and what are your veiws on this. I am currently in education and establishing a home will probably not be possible until 25+. If not please advise me on fighting the nafs.
Jazakallah khair.
Answer:
Nikah without living together is allowed, in fact in your case it is good if the girl is OK with it. I mean if she and her family are understanding, they allow you to do this. You meet occasionally and stay together – there is no harm in this.
I have a lot of sympathy for today’s youth. Sometimes I think that if I was in their shoes, I might not be able to control my nafs – May Allah protect our youth and use them for the work of deen.
The best way to control the nafs is punctuality upon the 5 Daily Salaah, some nawaafil and abundance of Zikrullah. Also Nafl Roza is another good way.