Mother not happy with the girl one wishes to marry

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Q: I am 24 years old and I am Bangladeshi. I want to marry a woman who is 11 years older than me, Pakistani, divorced and has a five year old child. As you can see I face monumental hurdles to convince my mother. I am aware that I don’t need anyones permission to get married, however, I want my mother to be happy with this marriage. So far I have mentioned to my mother that the woman is Pakistani and my mother has refused even though I have explained that in Islam this is not an issue. I would like to ask the mufti what I can do to convince my mother? I am making plenty of dua that Allah softens her heart and makes her accept. I am also subtly talking about the issue. Also, what can I do if my mother doesn’t agree? Is it a sin for me to marry without my mums consent or would it be a sin on my mother for preventing this marriage?


A: I suggest that you do not worry about this woman any longer. Look for a woman that your mother is pleased with.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.