Answered by: Siddiqa al-Farsiyyah
Question:
Assalamualaikum
I’m a patient of panic and anxiety disorder and under strong medication. I sometimes suffer serious withdrawal symptoms in which I lose my senses. Muje hosh ho hawasnahirehta
I have been married since over 20 months and I gave talaq to my wife once, after that I had sexual intercourse and I thought that there are 0 talaqs, 6 months after ruju I again gave her one talaq, and again did ruju with her.. I again thought I can give 3 more talaqs, All this was done in absence of any witness aurmene ye 2 talakeinapnehosh ho hawas mei nahi di thein
Now few days I gave 3 talaqs to my wife infront of two witnesses, but it was out of my senses. meneapnibv ka naamnahiliyana hi uskitarfankho mei aankhein daal ke dekha…mujhe wakai koi hoshnahithahaur meri 3 din sehalatbohtkhrab hai.. mukhtalifmansak mei molviaur mufti hazratmujekehrahayhaintalakhogayi hai.. meinhalalanahikaranachahtakionke shart keooper nikkah karanay ko Hamaray Paghambhar sallalahoalayhewaaalihiwasalamnelanatbheji hai.. mujeapnibvaurbeti sebohtpyar hai unkizindagibarbaadhojaye gi .. menekanoonan talaq nahi di.. mere khyalse Allah bohtghafoorurrahim hai aur jab menehosh o hawas mei talaq nahi di touislamkaisayitnasakhthosakta hai.. mujeumeed hai ap merajawabjaldi dein gay auriska koi sharayee hall bataien gay.. kionkeagrapnaykahake meri bv mere pe haram hai to mei shaydapnizindagikhatmkardoonjo ke haram hai…
Please tell me if my wife is haram or halal.
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Answer:
Firstly, it is important for you to understand that suicide in Islam in completely forbidden and such a person who commits this act will be thrown into the fire of Hell, as Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’an: “And do not kill yourselves [or one another].
Indeed, Allah is to you ever Merciful. And whoever does that in aggression and injustice – then We will drive him into a Fire. And that, for Allah, is [always] easy.” [Qur’an 4:29-30) Therefore, whatever Allah Ta’ala has declared in His religion regarding your situation will be related to you through this fatwa, and as a Muslim, one should say ‘I hear and obey’ instead of ending one’s life which invites Allah’s wrath and entry into the Fire.
Also, understand that whatever hardships and trials you face in this temporary world, are either tests from Allah Ta’ala, to see if we’ll be patient, or occurs a result of our own wrongdoings.
Overall, you do not know what’s best for you, whether it is better for you to return to your family, or get married to someone else, but Allah Ta’ala knows.
That’s why, I encourage you to be ready to act upon Allah’s deen firmly, whether it’s separating from your wife or anything else, and put your trust upon Allah, this is the only way you can achieve success.
All that said, I’d like you to provide me with more relevant detail regarding your disorder.
Have you been diagnosed by a medical professional?
When were you diagnosed?
How often do your manic episodes occur and when you say you are not in your senses whilst giving talaq, how are you able to remember the number of talaqs you gave etc?
When you gave her 3 talaqs, you said you didn’t take her name or look at her, but did you intend your wife? Was she present in the room? Describe the exact words and scenario to the best of what you remember. Waiting your reply.
Only Allah Ta’ala knows best.
Written by Siddiqa al-Farsiyyah
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
DarulIfta Birmingham