salame aalakoume… I have a probleme and I’am hoping that fdilate el chakhe will help me inchaalah. I have been in love with a man for over five years his muslem, arabic and a neabober back home.. last year he asked my hand from my father so we can get maried and live taugher but my father sefuse to even talke to him for no reason …he(my father ) want me to forget about him totaly but I couldn’t… so I moved with him we want to go to the masjed and get meried like we want it but we hade problems (he was not legale in U.S.A) nouw it been a year and we didn’t do halal plus we expecting a baby soon what can we do..please e.mail us with the anser nounouelhamrawi@aol.com
It is Haraam (strictly prohibited) for you to live with the person without marrying him. The relationship between you and him is Zina. You should make sincere Tawbah (repent) to Allah Ta’ala and make every effort to change your Haraam relationship into a Halaal one by performing Nikah with the person.
Kindly refer procedure for performing Nikah.
A Nikah is performed with a proposal (Iejaab) by the male or female and acceptance (Qubool) by the male or female in the past and/or present tense in the presence of two male Muslim witnesses (Hidaaya vol. 2).
It is Sunnat that the marriage be announced and performed in the Masjid and the bride be represented by her Mahram (father, brother, etc.). The bride gives consent to her representative (Wakeel) in the presence of two witnesses to perform her marriage at the Masjid. At the Masjid, the Wakeel represents the bride in the presence of the two witnesses who must be trustworthy and pious male Muslims. They should not be from among the girls ascendants e.g. father, etc. nor from her descendants, e.g. son, etc.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
FATWA DEPT.