Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
I got a proposal for marriage through my mother from a boy’s mother, and he didn’t even know about it. I texted him, but we never met, saw each other’s picture, talked, or had any haram conversation. We love each other, and I have come closer to Allah Most High.
I sincerely believe in the power of dua, but I heard that Allah Most High created us in pairs and that our partners are chosen on the day we are born. Therefore we can’t pray to Allah to marry any particular person because the dua will not work. Our destiny will just come to us. Should I not ask Allah Most High that I marry him? Can dua change destiny?
I commend you for not having a pre-marital relationship with this man. May Allah always keep you on the same path and give you success.
Please see the following links to answer your question about destiny:
Can Supplication Change Destiny?
What’s the Point in Supplicating?
In short, du’a is very powerful, as you mentioned, and it can change ‘relative destiny’ though not ‘absolute destiny.’ Therefore it is praiseworthy to ask from Allah anything that you desire. Allah loves one to seek His help, and it benefits you tremendously to build a relationship with your Lord.
When you supplicate to Allah for something, 1) You acknowledge His power, will, and servanthood to Him, 2) You build up your trust, reliance, and dependence on Him alone, 3) The angels respond to your dua for others by asking Allah to give you the same, 4) Allah responds to your du’a in one of three ways, guaranteeing you tremendous benefit in this life and the next.
Prayers That Are Never Answered
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Our Lord who is blessed and exalted descends every night to the lowest heaven when the last one-third of the night remains and says: Who supplicated Me so that I may answer him? Who asks of Me so that I may give to him? Who asks My forgiveness so that I may forgive him?” [Abu Dawud]
Check these links:
A Dua to Make Someone My Spouse
Are My Duas Being Answered?
Why Is My Dua Not Answered
May Allah Most High give you bless your union and give you the best of this life and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqida, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.