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How can we control our ego?

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I know that doing things and following the customs of the kuffar is haraam. Furthermore, to Like the customs of the kuffar and Kafir-related things is also haraam. How can one stop themselves from liking such things? Also, I get compliments all the time, and I think the compliments are really getting to my head and are thus boosting my ego. How can I prevent people’s compliments from boosting my ego?

If a person increases his love with Allah and his messenger and creates firmness in his belief than it becomes easy to leave the lifestyle of non-Muslim people. Because the person will realize that whosoever does not believe in Allah and lives in lifestyle of disbelief Allah is not happy with them. The requirement of love is that what ever the beloved does not like must be forsaken, we must sit and think as to what he likes and dislikes and adopt his likes in our lives and disregard his dislikes. We should also not imitate the lifestyle’s of those people who are hated by Allah this is a sign of complete faith. When there is a completion in faith a person will begin to see the friend of Allah as his friend and enemy of Allah as his enemy.

There should be no pride; if someone praises you on your face you should stop him or her. Pride basically means to consider somebody lower than you while you consider yourself better than someone else. This categorization of better and worse is determined by Allah who ever is better in his eyesight is the real better person and ever is not is a real worse person. If someone mentions some good words and that makes you happy than this is not against the dictates of the Shariah. Sometimes it person can also saying that Allah has disclosed my goodness to this man or person and it’s a great bounty of his for which he deserves a Thanksgiving from my end when in reality I have no good in me. This happiness is not similar to pride.

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