Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah
My daughter says that from this year she is an atheist and bisexual. She cuts her hand and tried several attempts to commit suicide. She went to the hospital many times and is going through therapy and psychiatrist treatment. She does not like me. She says that “my mom hit me when I was 13”. I don’t remember it but she was a stubborn child. She also says that one of the reasons of her hate is my “super religiousness”. She says no to everything that I tell her. She took off her hijab and stopped praying salah and her hifz. She wants to run away from home and live a non-muslim life. She has started eating pork and wants to drink alcohol. She knows a lot about Islam but she is doing the total opposite. She says she wants freedom.
We tried everything dua and dawa but nothing seems to be working. She is waiting to become 18 and finally get out of the house (she is currently 15). She is in the 11th grade and does not want to study, wants to drop off from the school and do petty jobs.
What should we do in this situation? How should we bring her back to Islam and its teachings? I have tried my best but she is extreme in her behavior. I am doing ruqiyah, have given her zamzam and after praying salah am giving her water on which I have blown the manzil I read. She drinks it and listens to the Quran but does not follow anything. Anything I tell her she does the total opposite of it. She says nobody loves her and has non-muslim friends who left her as she was engaging in all of this behavior. She also tried to go on a date with someone but it got cancelled because my husband saw her messages
For now, since nothing is working, we have just left her alone. She says that if Allah was real then my life would not be like this as she was cyber bullied at her school and suffers from social anxiety. Please help us.
Walaikumassalam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu
Create a religious environment in your home, perform ta‘leem and read the stories, of the life of Sahabeeyat and the circumstances which one will have in both Jannah and Jahannam, to her. Perform her Nikah with a suitable man as soon as possible and read the following supplication after every salah:
وَاَصْلِحْ لِیْ فِیْ ذُرِّیَّتِیْ، اِنِّیْ تُبْتُ اِلَیْکَ وَاِنِّیْ مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِیْنَ
Upon reciting the word:
“ذُرِّیَّتِیْ”
think about your children. In addition, recite:
یا شہید
1000 times and blow it on her and on some water, then feed this water to your daughter.
Wassalam