Q: A while before I got married I used to train at a gym. The instructor, a male, had a lot of other males and females in this class. At the time I knew that training in a mixed setting was haraam but I was ignorant and am still trying to repent for this sin. I stopped training after 3 months and then got married 2 years later. Now, after 2 years, the instructor keeps harassing me and making false accusations of me having an affair with him. All this time before I got married I had no contact with the gym or trainer and did not even hear from this trainer. Alhumdulillah, my husband can see that this is nothing but harassment and that I did not commit that sin. I however feel as though I did commit the sin by just being in the presence of men in a mixed gathering and training. He is accusing me of a whole load of false accusations which I did not commit and I have tried to get legal help but the more I fight back the more out of control this situation becomes. I am really afraid that people are going to find out and assume the worst even though I did not have an affair. Please can you advise me accordingly.
A: Just ignore him. If you can use some nasty words against him then use it provided there are no legal implications. Better than all this is just think as though he does not exist and don’t take the trouble to respond to him. Read “Hasbiyallah”.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)