Placing one’s trust in Allah

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Q: I wanted to know how would a sister who no longer wants any kids due to clinical depression and who’s had health issues for over 6 years which affects her daily life, search for a spouse? She is not living a normal life as it is so she can’t take on the responsibility of a child and doesn’t want any anyway despite loving kids all her life and knowing it’s a Sunnah. She’s going on 27 and has been wanting to have a companion for years if not a child. It will change her in good ways and help her lower her gaze.

She doesn’t have time to go from person to person and and keep mentioning not having kids and being rejected. Also due to some men being desperate to get married, some just agree and say yes it’s ok for the sake of it but have no idea what they are getting themselves in to and how it would affect them in the long term when they see their friends have kids and when their parents start forcing them to have kids so she needs someone who isn’t influenced by people and is sure that they are ok with NOT wanting kids. She’s not ever planning to be a 2nd wife either so this sister is making her self very clear before hand and needs to be taken seriously. She doesn’t mind accepting older men who are divorced and already have kids if they can accept to NOT having more otherwise if they do then that’s a problem.

There are more people out there now that don’t want kids but it’s hard to find them or brothers who have a medical problem and can’t have kids, there is no help to bring these people together.


A: Don’t become overwhelmed by what people will have to say. Place your trust in Allah Ta`ala and continue.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.

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