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Desperate for Love: My Struggle to Win Back the Man I Love

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Q: I am in too much trouble, tension and depression. My problem is very critical. I love a guy who also loved me. We had been speaking for nine months. First time he was working with me, we use to talk alot. He was very caring loving and soft spoken. But after four or five months we had a fight because of some other female. I doubted but he clarified a lot, so I accepted him and we are again in a relation but after this he stopped talking to me slowly slowly. He ignores me, he got careless. He who used to love me like crazy and message me whole day now he doesn’t for weeks. If I message him then he replies otherwise he doesn’t care where I am. We fight a lot nowadays. When I ask him why he is doing and using this kind of behavior to me then he said I am doing nothing I am with u and then the situation is the same as before. When I talk to him to send his parents he said I can’t yet. I’ll do so when I feel comfortable. I love him a lot, I am sincere with him. I truly want to get married to him. I am twenty nine years old now. My parents pressurize me to get married. I want him back like before. I want that he’ll love me again and send his parents very soon. Please help me. I did so many wazifas, namaazes, tahajjud namaaz, haajat namaaz, but it does not work. Please tell me some very powerfull and strong Dua to get him back and get married to him soon. I crying every night and pray to Allah that listen to my Dua. I have no other option then him. Please help me.

Bismillaah

A: All premarital relationships are haraam and forbidden in Shariah. You both should immediately end the relationship and seek forgiveness from Allah Ta’ala for getting involved in this sin. Make a firm resolve that you will not repeat this sin in the future.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.

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