Answered by: Shaykh Ahmed bin Mohamed Umarji
I have a question if I decline my husband for intimate relations after he was cruel, is it haram for me? And I avoid him because of fear to communicate like a wife sleeping next to him? Is it haram for me?
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have sexual relation) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the angels will curse her till morning.”1
This warning applies as long as a woman does not have an excuse valid in shariah.2
Reasons such as the wife being sick, being emotionally drained, or the wife fearing physical harm are valid reasons for which she may deny her husband’s call to bed.
Only Allah knows best
Written by Shaykh Ahmed bin Mohamed Umarji
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
1 Sahih al-Bukhari 3237
2 Mazahirul Haqq Sharh Mishkaatul Masabeeh, Volume 3, Page 335, Darul-Ishaat