Q: My grandmother has oppressed my father financially. She has gained her wealth through the manipulation of my grandfather’s inheritance and the theft of my father’s businesses and properly. She and her youngest son have colluded. My father has battled all his life and they have never put out a hand to assist inspite of them having the means. Am I obligated to continue having ties with them? It has been a year since I spoke to them. What is the Islamic ruling on this? My grandfather is late.
What if they don’t come visit as we stay in two different cities? I am finding it difficult to pick up the phone and call them.
A: You are not allowed to sever ties with them. The least you must do is to make Salaam to them and answer their Salaam. Since it is your grandmother and uncle, keep at least a limited contact with them with this in mind that you are fulfilling your Islamic duty. They will have to face the consequences of their actions. Do not lower your morals and character because of them.
I understand that it is difficult because of the pain that you underwent. Put some pressure on yourself and make a phone call. Wish them Ramadhaam Mubarak, etc, a quick call.
The reward in the hereafter for this sacrifice is unimaginable.
May Allah always guide you to His pleasure, Aameen.
Moulana Yusuf Laher