Disagreement with husband because of daughters clothing

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i have been married for more then a year and i am expecting my first child.

i come from a tablighi background but fate is tht i got married into salafis. my shariah perda and everything  i have been tauhtis on rocks here, when it comes to me i can suffer without saying anything but my child cant.

my question is firstly:

tht am i being reasonable in saying when i dnt want my daughters to wear sleeveless or frocks without leggings or pajamas. my husband doesnt want tht till the age of 8. and he says if i dnt listen he will do sumthing severe i am scared. is he being fair?

my second question is right for me to pray to Allah not to give me daughters because of the bay hayai and no perda in my susraal.


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Sister in Islam,

We make dua Allah Taa’la grant you healthy child. Ameen.

To have a child, whether boy or girl is a great bounty of Allah.

It is permissible for a girl to wear the types of clothes you refer to. However, as a girl gets closer to puberty, she should be nurtured to dress modestly. Your husband does not mind you doing that after the age of eight. You should not oppose your husband in this especially when wearing such clothes for a minor is not prohibited. 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Tareque Ahmed

Student Darul Iftaa
New York, USA

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.


آپ کے مسائل اور ان کا حل –  طبعة جديدة 67/8

كتاب النوازل 337/15

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