Salam Mufti Sahab
Answer:
In the name of Allāh, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalāmu ῾alaykum wa Rahmatullāhi Wabarakātuh
Your statement “I can’t live with her anymore” does not clearly reflect your intention of terminating the Nikāh or not. If your intention at that time of making the statement was to terminate the Nikāh, then that will constitute one talāq bāin (an irrevocable divorce). The wife isobliged to sit in Iddat from the time you have uttered the words. You will have to renew the Nikāh if you wish to stay with her. If your intention was not to terminate the Nikāh, then your Nikāh will be intact. You don’t have to renew your Nikāh.
(Fatāwa Aalamgīriyyah, Vol.1, Pg.74,Saeed)[1]
Islam has given certain rights to the husband over the wife and certain rights to the wife over the husband. There should be love, compassion, and honesty between the husband and wife. Both husband and wife should be conscious of one another’s rights.
Indeed, the rights of parents are greater than wives, but that does not mean that one should neglect his wife and prefer his parents over the wife in every aspect of life. In the same way, the wife should also understand that her success lies in the happiness of her husband. If the husband is fulfilling her needs and not violating her rights due to the parents, then there is no harm in keeping the parents with them. The parents should also look after their daughter-in-law as their own child and not interfere with her life unnecessarily. Try to forgive each other and abstain from reminding each other of their rights. This will create love and compassion between parents and daughter-in-law.
And Allāh Ta῾āla Knows Best
Wassalāmu ῾alaykum
Ml. Abdur Rahman Shareef,
Student Dārul Iftā
Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Dārul Iftā, Madrasah In῾āmiyyah