Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
I have now been blessed with two healthy children alhamdulillah. Both children were born via an emergency c-section as they were both overdue and exhibited signs of distress during early labour, so I follow the doctor’s recommendation. Though I am grateful for my recovery and my children’s health and safety, part of me feels sad and worried that Allah Most High doesn’t bless my journey of motherhood because I was denied a vaginal delivery. Do mothers like me really miss out on the grace and benefits that Allah gives mothers who have normal deliveries?
Thank you for your question. Your rewards will be no less, and perhaps you will have a better reward for undergoing more suffering and pain through childbirth and surgery.
Please don’t think that your motherhood is not blessed. Allah puts every single believer through a different test, and He wants to see how you will react to it. Will you be grateful or bitter and ungrateful? Will you raise them in a way that blesses your home or will you not? The choice is yours. Please see the link below:
Creating a Blessed Home: A Reader
Please remember this important hadith: “How wonderful is the case of a believer; there is good for him in everything and this applies only to a believer. If prosperity attends him, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him; and if adversity befalls him, he endures it patiently and that is better for him.” [Muslim]
Please see this link as well:
Is there more rewards in natural birth than having a C-section?
The Reality of Gratitude and Its Fruits
May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqida, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.