Q: I’m 23 years old this year. I am engaged to a man arranged by my parents over a year ago. Until now, my nikah (marriage) is getting very delay as my parents want my sister to marry first. She isn’t engaged yet. My fiance’s family eagerly wants us to marry first. I do understand my family situation, but my fiance and I want to get married soon to avoid any unnecessary problems. Do I need to wait for my sister until she gets marry? In Islam does marriage need to be according to the siblings’ sequence? if not, how to keep myself to be patience?
A: You do not need to wait for your sister to marry. You can get married before her, it is permissible. Get some elders in your family to speak to your parents and make them understand. Or get the Aalim in your area to speak to them.
May Allah Ta’aala make it easy for you, Aameen.
Moulana Yusuf Laher