Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah
I have a long story but I hope you can provide me some guidance.
Unfortunately I have been in a relationship with a Non-Muslim girl for couple of years now. When I met her I wasn’t a practicing Muslim, but I now understand that it was not a good thing to do. For the past 4/5 months our contact has been severed due to problems with her parents. She did not contact me but during this time I made dua to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta‘ala that if this girl does not accept Islam, may she never be brought back into my life. But after a few weeks she contacted me again and in my opinion it was a harmless phone conversation. But I still continued on making the same dua. I am not sure if making such a dua is permissible or not.
After that we did not have contact but I sent her a letter stating if she accepts Islam that is the only way we can move on together. After 4/5 days she contacted me and we decided that we would meet in a couple of weeks. But then she disappeared although we did not have any fights and she is usually not an arrogant person.
She is a female who liked staying at home and did not get involved in the vices some of European girls are involved in (e.g. clubbing, drinking etc.). She is obedient by nature and also insisted me to make decisions. This tells me that she is not an arrogant person, but on the other hand i do not understand her current behavior for constantly not contacting me. We barely spoke about Islam with each other and that is something I really regret. I had also made dua in past from Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta‘ala to show me a sign if she wanted to revert to Islam but I did not get any such signs or maybe I missed to see them.
My question now is, should I contact her and talk to her again and invite her to Islam or should i leave her alone? I am confused with the overall situation and need someone else to help me answer this questions. I do not want to get involved in calling her and then her not picking my calls up etc.
I will respect your answer and I will follow your advice InshahAllah.
JazakAllah Khair
Walaikumassalam Warahmatullah
الجواب وباللہ التوفیق
First of all it was impermissible to keep any relationship with her or meet her, you should repent and perform astaghfar. Apparently she has distanced herself from you due to your invitation to her towards Islam. You should not keep any contact with her and be away from her.
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