We are 4 sisters, we had one (youngest) brother who passed away 6 months back, he was a very good kid and used to take care of all of us including our parents, very much. For some reason our mother never loved him, so much so that she did not even talk to him properly, especially since he had gotten married, my mother and father completely changed and fought with him all the time. My parents would defame him in front of other family members, if we sisters spoke to him nicely, they got mad on us. Even on the day when he had the heart attack my mother was angry at him, he used to ask me that since he kept all the family members including his wife and kids happy and had not done anything wrong, why did mom treat him this way. After he died, my mother now says that she does not have any complaints against him and that he was a good son. My bhabi (sister in law) and my brother’s 3 kids, lived with my mother and father after my brother’s death. My mother used to fight with our bhabi (sister in law) all the time, from the third day of my brother’s death they started fighting again and even after much mediation they did not change, so bhabi and her kids left. My mother told us that she hates our father too. My elder sister then started living with my mother and father but now my mother started behaving badly towards my sister so much so that she has separated her kitchen and food with her. Mufti sahib, we all love our mother very much, she was not like this before, she used to be like our friends, but she fights with everyone all the time now. She fights with all her daughters and leaves the house without informing anyone. Our father then tries to find her and brings her back to the house. Fights have started in my sisters’ homes as well and their husbands have started making comments about this whole situation as well. Please tell us something which will bring peace and serenity in our house.
الجواب و باللہ التوفیق
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatuh
No matter how angry one’s parents become, one should always keep a demeanor which is full of love, kindness and etiquettes and should always care about their needs. You should create an atompshere of ta’leem in your house. In addition you should read the following 786 times and blow it on water or sugar and feed it to your parents:
بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم
Also, during your normal tasks of a day, keep on reading the following:
یا سبوح یا قدوس یا غفور یا ودود
فقط واللہ اعلم بالصواب