Q: A girl claims that I am responsible for her failed marriage and accuses me of concealing from her the truth about her in law’s and husband’s evil character and habits. Prior to her marriage, when asked my opinion about the family, I told her family that from my interactions with the boy and his family and from what I had heard about them, I was never given a reason to believe that they were anything but good people. They then proceeded to do their own private investigations. The girl says that I should repent and will be questioned about my actions on the Day of Reckoning. Can you please also comment on whether a boy is destined to have an unhappy marriage if his parents were separated (but have since reunited) and if his grandfather made nikah with a second wife?
A: These are all superstitious beliefs that must be rejected. In the first case you explained what you felt about him. So this is not concealing. Hence there is no reason why you will be held accountable by Allah Ta`ala.
His grandfather and other family members are responsible for their own conduct and behavior and he is independent of them. Hence, you do not have to be affected because of their unhappy marriage.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)