Q: There is a girl whom I like very much and when my family met her family, my parents didn’t like her family much because they don’t follow parda. My parents said they don’t like the girl but if I am persistent with the girl they don’t have any problem. The girl is pious and committed to deen except that she doesn’t wear burqa and wears all modern dresses like t-shirts and jeans. I tried explaining to her about the importance of hijab but she used to get irritated listening to it. I feel I will be able to convince her for hijab and parda in a long-term i.e. if we get married. So my questions are first, should I marry her or not? Second, if I marry her am I disobeying my parents?
A: Listen to your parents. If the girl does not dress Islamically but wears all types of modern clothing, t -shirts and jeans how can she be regarded as pious and committed to her deen. Furthermore, it is not permissible for you to be speaking to her and being in contact with her. All premarital relationships are haraam. You should sincerely make tawba and stop all communication with her.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)