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How to control the nafs

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Q: I have a problem that I can’t control my nafs. All the time shaitan behkata rehta he. What should I do? Tarah tarh ke bure khayalat zehn mein aate rehte he like sexually feelings and emotions. When I can’t control myself I used to masturbate. I know it is a bad thing but I can’t control myself. I want to marry to avoid these things but I am too shy to my approach my parents about my marriage. They also told me that they do not want to marry me so soon as I’m of 19 year. What should I do? Please guide me. Some times when realize my fault, then at that time I feel no one in the world is bad than me. I even think of suicide. I’m unable to understand my self and this world.

Bismillaah

A: Regularly meditate in this manner at a time when nothing obstructs you, perhaps after Esha salaah. Make wudhu correctly, perform two rakaats of namaaz and then focus deeply over death and the events that will follow after death, the loneliness of the grave, standing before Allah Ta`ala for reckoning, Jannah and Jahannum and thereafter think to yourself, can you tolerate Jahannum for a single moment. When you cannot, then how can you be brazen about matters that will take you to Jahannum. 

Reprimand yourself saying that you are enjoying the comforts of Allah Ta`ala and His favours during the day and night, and is this the way to show appreciation to the one who is so loving and caring. Then you do not have any understanding of loyalty and faithfulness to the one who is most loyal and beneficent. 

Thereafter resolve with deep remorse and regret after crying as much as you can, never to repeat these wrongs.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.