Q: I’m 27 years old. I’m basically from India and working in this country. My family has arranged a girl for me who is a local Muslim girl born in this country and she’s 19 years old. I went to see her few days ago and it seems like both of us are interested in each-other. The families are happy too. Now what’s bothering me about her is when I ask her about her past life, she said she has been in a relationships few times. And she did sleep once with a guy. (which I appreciate that she didn’t lie or hide) Now after knowing that I’m like almost heartbroken. I also had couple of relationships and I was also engaged in all those haraam acts which I regret now to the core of my heart but I never had sex which I told her. I often watch porn and masturbate. And I only had oral sex. Please help me out. Are we both in a same boat? are we equal sinners? Should I go for her? I have seen she’s really sorry about her act. And she’s Willing to change.
A: It would seem like both of your are equal. As long as both are committed to lead a chaste and pure life then it is advisable that you get into nikaah.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)