Dear Mufti Sahib
My wife is pregnant and in her first three months. She is giving me very hard time sexually. As I approach nearer, she says that her heart is sinking and she feels like vomiting. Our marriage is new and its our honeymoon baby. Please tell me if women are allowed to refuse their husbands during pregnancy. If they do so , do they fall under the warning of Hadith stating that if women don’t attend their husband’s call towards sex and husbands become angry then Angels will curse them.
I adopted a way to satisfy myself, I told my wife to masturbate me but she gets tired in the way so i tell her to rub her hands over my body and testicles, in the meanwhile I rub her breasts with one hand and rub my penis with other hand.
Now the Question is :
1. Is it Halaal to ejaculate myself while playing with my wife’s genitals?
2.Is it Halaal to rub my penis to the point of ejaculation and then tell my wife to hold it in her hand and make me ejaculate finally?
3.Is it allowed to touch one’s penis and rub if one is with wife?
If the wife is ill and has difficulty in having sex with the husband then she will not fall in the category mentioned in the Hadith if she refuses to have sex with him.
The answer to your three questions is positive and you can do so. These actions are Halaal with ones wife.
And Allah Ta’ala knows best
Mufti Muhammad Ashraf
19 July 2005
12 Jumaadul Ukhraa 1426