Question:
I am third year English Literature.
A lot of people offer marriage on me and they are religious people and I have the desire to become a mother and have a family. My problem is that my father does not accept to receive anybody. He says that he wants me to continue my study first and then I will be married, but I do not believe him because I have the feeling that he does not want me to marry at all. My question is: Is it forbidden to marry without his acceptance or not?
Answer:
It is best for you to accept the decision made by your father. Parents are sympathetic towards their children and always wish the best for them. They have a great amount of experience. Therefore, you would benefit tremendously in accepting the decisions made by them.
If you feel that the need of getting married is extremely high and that you will experience great difficulty in exercising patience in a chaste manner, then you should consult an Aalim in your locality and convince your father to change his mind.
At the very least, try not to get married without your fathers blessings.
And Allah Ta’ala knows best
Mufti Muhammad Ashraf
Darul Iftaa
Jameah Mahmoodiyah
Springs
18 February 2005
09 Muharram 1426