I ask for a divorce, then my husband ask for a divorce does this count as twice. If I want a divorce for the third time do I have to wait for 3 menses to pass still or can I leave immediately.
As Salaamu Alaikum,
If you had ask for a divorce, and your husband had also ask for a divorce from you, then no divorce will take place since this is only a request for divorce. The divorce will occur when he utters divorce to you by saying that he has divorced you, or has consented to divorce you by signing a paper (as in the court divorce). When this happens, only one divorce will occur.
If he gives you one divorce, then you will go through a waiting period of 3 menses, after which you will leave (if he did not revoke the divorce in the case of a revocable divorce, or remarry you in the case of an irrevocable divorce).
You should not ask for a third divorce. If both of you do not wish to live together, then you should separate from each other when the waiting period (of 3 menses) comes to an end.
And Allah knows best,
Mufti Waseem Khan
This answer was collected from DarulUloomTT.net, which is operated under the supervision of Mufti Waseem Khan from Darul Uloom Trinidad and Tobago.