Respected mufti
Question :
If a couple are countries apart due to work every 8 – 10 weeks
for a duration of 20-30 days (apart)
(habit of having relations every 2 to 3 days when together)
While the husband is away he wants to view the wife while changing and being nude over a live video call (facetime) – would it be allowed ?
The husband has expressed frustration and discontentment at and feels restricted by the wife for not wanting to comply
Since he feels he is not asking for haram and is going to his wife to see what he is allowed to see in person
and not another source
The wife feels her haya is at stake and is afraid of this being an act displeasing to the Almighty
And also feels responsible should he do something distasteful and wrong
Will she be held responsible?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Hayaa (modesty) is a hallmark of every Mu’min. Hayaa is part of Imaan and a believer will always have to govern himself/herself to acts of Hayaa and modesty.
The need for intimacy between spouses is natural. However, it should be fulfilled with shame, modesty and dignity. Bedroom life should remain an Amanah.
If a married couple is unable to live together due to unforeseen circumstances beyond their control and if the wife fears the husband committing an immoral act, then the wife will be excused to act on her husband’s wish and desire, with the intention of maintaining his chastity. The sin of such a video call will be regarded as lesser of the two evils (Evil of the video call and husband committing Zina).
The couple should make taubah and istighfaar as there are many violations of Shariah in such a video call.
The husband should make adjustments with his work schedule and be close to his wife.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Muhammad I.V Patel
Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.