Assalamualikum mufti saab, I am 28 year old working in software company india. I am praying 5 times and following sunnah. But the problem is my marriage is getting delayed due to my elder brother. My parents are eagerly looking out but not succeeding. I was not able control my desire and not able to sleep in night till 1 pm( but i am not doing anythink wrong like masturbation,due to this i am not able to sleep ). So please advise what should i do? I can’t explain this to any one.
Even i reach out to my parents about this, the will not marry me until my elder brother gets married. please advise
In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.
Brother in Islaam,
We take note of the contents of your query. We make du’aa that Allaah Ta’aala makes it easy for you.
This custom and notion that the elder sibling must get married first before his/her younger siblings has no basis in Shari’ah. If the younger sibling is of age and/or a suitable match is found for the younger sibling, then it is incorrect to delay the marriage.
We advise you to identify a person who has influence over your parents and request him to intervene. In the meantime, we advise you to keep fasts to control and minimize your desires[1].
And Allaah Ta’aala Knows Best.
Muajul I. Chowdhury
Student, Darul Iftaa
Astoria, New York, USA
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
[1] صحيح البخاري (3/ 26)
1905 – حدثنا عبدان، عن أبي حمزة، عن الأعمش، عن إبراهيم، عن علقمة، قال: بينا أنا أمشي، مع عبد الله رضي الله عنه، فقال: كنا مع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم، فقال: «من استطاع الباءة فليتزوج، فإنه أغض للبصر، وأحصن للفرج، ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم، فإنه له وجاء»