I am an 18 year old. and have a strong desire to get married to a Good Muslim woman but I can’t understand how to find one. My parents are not Muslim so they can’t ‘hook’ me up. I seem to only attract kufar women (who I’m always trying to evade) and the “Muslim” women I do know (that I’m trying to escape) are just Muslim by name and not action. How can I find and get to know a good Muslim female? Also I’m away from the community in Panama City, FL (sin city) and though I meet the criteria for getting married (in terms of potential sin). (and I’m ashamed to say it) I am a Diver in the U.S. Navy so what good Muslim woman would want me. What should I do? I’ve tried fasting, but unfortunately that’s actually dangerous with my intense physical training. What should I do? Just suck it up and not get married … but I fear that being around all this Zina I may be inclined towards these animals. I think a wife would strengthen the deen in my life? What should I do?
Assalaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakaatuhu
We understand your plight and make Du’aa to Almighty Allah Ta’ala to grant you a suitable marriage partner.
We advise you recite 500 times Durood Shareef every day and male Du’aa to Allah Ta’ala for a marriage partner. You should also communicate with the Muslim community and search for a pious women in the community. You should not hasten. Generally, even in a large Muslim community, Muslim males do encounter much difficulty in finding a suitable marriage partner. We advise you be patient and exercise restraint while searching for a partner.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai