assalamualikum, Mufti Sahib
I need your advise in the situation I am in. I am married with 5 kids. We have a 4 bedroom home, I work from home, one room I am using for my office, the 2nd room is shared by my 2 oldest Daughters, my wife has insisted to have her father who has been divorced twice from Paksitan to live with us in USA, he has brothers and sisters and he has 3 homes in Pakistan, when she wanted to have her father live with us, I didn’t wanted, but she threatening me if I don’t accept her father, she will leave the kids here and will go to Pakistan to live with her father. She is very ziddy and I have been married for 20 years I know when she is serious. He is been living here with us for the last 4 years, he is using the third bedroom, as a result my 3 kids ages range from 5 to 13 shares our master bedroom with us. I don’t have privacy to be with my wife and she doesn’t make it easier to be with her when kids are there or in general . I am very frustrated I don’t know what to do, she doesn’t care about my rights and hakook. I need help I don’t know what to do I tried telling her my situation she doesnt see it as problem. Please help? It’s not easy for me to move into another house, if her father was not here, it will be perfect for us the other kids will use the 3rd bedroom and her father doesn’t realize what I’m going through he visit pakistan once a year for like 2 months and comes back.
Jazakumullah khair,
الجواب وبالله التوفيق
You should talk to your wife and explain to her about the rights and responsibilities of the husband and wife over each other and what a fulfilling pleasant married life really means. Also explain to her father to have a separate living arrangement for him in order to not quash the lives of everyone involved.
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