Question:
Assalamu ‘alaykum. My husband is very sexually active. Even when I am on my periods, I satisfy him with my hand. He keeps asking me for oral as foreplay but without swallowing because ingesting filth is not acceptable. I have read that anything oral is haram, and I do not want to take any step to upset Allah. What should I do?
Answer:
Wa ‘alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.
I pray you are well.
Your husband is correct about ingesting sexual fluids being impermissible. If this does not occur then the act is not strictly impermissible. There are scholars of some schools who have permitted it.
However, this act is generally frowned upon and strongly discouraged by many. It is certainly superior to avoid. Please refer to the other answers we have on this and the relevant section in this excellent book.
Speak to your husband. Discuss the matter with him in light of the above and your personal feelings on the matter, as there can be other considerations.
May Allah bless you with the best of both worlds.
[Shaykh] Abdul-Rahim Reasat
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani