Q: Many Muslims do not do marriages according to Islamic rulings these days. In my family, my elder brother got married but I did not attend his marriage. I think that where Muslims do not apply sunnah of Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, I should not attend such celebrations. They marry like non-muslims, so I think we should not attend such marriages. I want to know if my thinking is correct?
I am asking this because I listened in lectures of Ulama that a believer should stop evil with hand. If one have not so much power to stop with hand, one should try to stop evil by mouth i.e. saying about the wrong. If one have not even this ability than one should feel it evil. Because of this this, I don’t attend marriages where Islamic rules are avoided.
A: Amr bil Ma’roof and Nahi anil Munkar (i.e. enjoining the good and forbidding the evil) is the duty of every baaligh Muslim according to his ability. If you are informed of any wrongs or impermissible practices (e.g. intermingling of sexes, music, photography, etc.) that are going to take place in the nikaah functions, then if you are able to you advise your relatives, you should respectfully explain to them that this is against the teachings of Islam and the way of the Sunnah. If they are not willing to accept and remove the impermissible practises and wrongs from their nikaahs, then it is compulsory upon you not to attend the nikaah function in order that you save yourself from the displeasure of Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى).
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)