Q: In the beginning of my marriage, my wife did something that made me upset. But we did not fight. She left and I started getting thoughts of divorce. But I pushed them away and told myself that no divorce, these things happen throughout life. And the thoughts of divorce also got me upset. Then as I was walking to my room words came out of my mouth. Actually the words were not good and I am also ashamed of them so I will not mention them here but will substitute the words. The words were: “Hate the talaq, hate the the talaq, talaq ko talaq (divorve to divorce in Urdu) As soon as I said these statements, a sudden thought came to my mind that what if these words caused a divorce. I kept getting waswasa a for few days and I kept telling myself that no I was upset at the thoughts of divorce and I was saying this not to my wife but in order to show my hate towards the divorce.
After 2 months I started getting the thoughts again about the statements I made. While I was thinking about what I said, the words “talaq ko talaq” i.e (divorce to divorce in Urdu) came out of my mouth again all of a sudden. I am so upset why these words came out of my mouth. What should I do?
Should I take it as waswasa and leave it, or what should I do?
Suppose a person is having intention of divorce in his heart, and all of a sudden he said those words i.e. “hate the talaq, hate the talaq, talaq ko talaq” what would be the ruling then.
A: No talaaq has taken place. In future, don’t experiment with these types of words as it unnecessarily creates doubts and suspicions.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)