Q: In the beginning of my marriage, my wife did something that made me upset. But we did not fight. She left and I started getting thoughts of divorce. But I pushed them away and told myself that no divorce, these things happen throughout life. And the thoughts of divorce also got me upset. Then as I was walking to my room words came out of my mouth. Actually the words were not good and I am also ashamed of them so I will not mention them here but will substitute the words. The words were: “Hate the talaq, hate the the talaq, talaq ko talaq (divorve to divorce in Urdu) As soon as I said these statements, a sudden thought came to my mind that what if these words caused a divorce. I kept getting waswasa a for few days and I kept telling myself that no I was upset at the thoughts of divorce and I was saying this not to my wife but in order to show my hate towards the divorce.
After 2 months I started getting the thoughts again about the statements I made. While I was thinking about what I said, the words “talaq ko talaq” i.e (divorce to divorce in Urdu) came out of my mouth again all of a sudden. I am so upset why these words came out of my mouth. What should I do?
Should I take it as waswasa and leave it, or what should I do?
Suppose a person is having intention of divorce in his heart, and all of a sudden he said those words i.e. “hate the talaq, hate the talaq, talaq ko talaq” what would be the ruling then.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.