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Can a man have intimate relationship with both wives together and in the presence of each other?

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Shortened Question:

What was the lifestyle of Rasulullah Salallahu wa Salam with his wives?

Can you also explain sexual and platonic lifestyles?

Can a man have intimate relationship with both wives together and in the presence of each other?

Question:

I have two wives. Can you explain the lifestyle of Rasulullah Salallahu wa Salam with regards to his wives?

Can you also explain in detail the sexual and the platonic lifestyle?

Is it permissible to have intimate relationship with both wives at the same time and in the presence of each other?

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Equality between two wives is compulsory. This is already indicated in the Quran.

Allah says:

فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ

(But if you fear that you will not maintain equity, then (keep to) one woman, or a bondwoman that you own).

(Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi wa Salam was exempted from equality between his wives.[1] Inspite of this he used to maintain equality among his wives to the extent that he would seek the permission from his wives to spend time by Hadrat Ayesha Radiayallaho Anha during his last sickness.[2]

Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi wa Salam did not allow his wives to feel that they were unimportant. He sacrificed  an animalon behalf of each of his wives for Eid Ul Adha.[3]

Each wife should be treated with respect. The time spent with her should be spent in private and in seclusion. It is not permissible to have intimate relationship with both wives at the same time.  It is against adaab and etiquette to expose your sattar to another person without a Sharih reason. Even worse to have intimate relationship in the presence of a third person.

Rasulullah Salallahu wa Salam says: Go ahead and do what you please if you have no shame. This is clearly a sign of having no shame and modesty.[4]

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And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Mufti Saeed Ahmed Golaub

Islamic Solutions

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[1]سنن ابن ماجه (1 / 634):

1973 – حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، وَمُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى، قَالَا: حَدَّثَنَا عَفَّانُ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ ثَابِتٍ، عَنْ سُمَيَّةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، وَجَدَ عَلَى صَفِيَّةَ بِنْتِ حُيَيٍّ فِي شَيْءٍ، فَقَالَتْ صَفِيَّةُ: يَا عَائِشَةُ، هَلْ لَكِ أَنْ تُرْضِي رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَنِّي، وَلَكِ يَوْمِي؟ قَالَتْ: نَعَمْ، فَأَخَذَتْ خِمَارًا لَهَا مَصْبُوغًا بِزَعْفَرَانٍ، فَرَشَّتْهُ بِالْمَاءِ لِيَفُوحَ رِيحُهُ، ثُمَّ قَعَدَتْ إِلَى جَنْبِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «يَا عَائِشَةُ، إِلَيْكِ عَنِّي، إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ يَوْمَكِ» ، فَقَالَتْ: ذَلِكَ فَضْلُ اللَّهِ يُؤْتِيهِ مَنْ يَشَاءُ، فَأَخْبَرَتْهُ بِالْأَمْرِ، فَرَضِيَ عَنْهَا

[2]:665 – حَدَّثَنَا إِبْرَاهِيمُ بْنُ مُوسَى، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنَا هِشَامُ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، عَنْ مَعْمَرٍ، عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنِي عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، قَالَ: قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ: «لَمَّا ثَقُلَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، وَاشْتَدَّ وَجَعُهُ اسْتَأْذَنَ أَزْوَاجَهُ أَنْ يُمَرَّضَ فِي بَيْتِي، فَأَذِنَّ لَهُ، فَخَرَجَ بَيْنَ رَجُلَيْنِ تَخُطُّ رِجْلاَهُ الأَرْضَ، وَكَانَ بَيْنَ العَبَّاسِ وَرَجُلٍ آخَرَ» قَالَ عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ: فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ مَا قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ، فَقَالَ لِي: وَهَلْ تَدْرِي مَنِ الرَّجُلُ الَّذِي لَمْ تُسَمِّ عَائِشَةُ؟ قُلْتُ: لاَ، قَالَ: هُوَ عَلِيُّ بْنُ أَبِي طَالِبٍ  صحيح البخاري (1 / 134)

[3]:إِذَا طَافَ بِالْبَيْتِ، ثُمَّ يَحِلُّ» قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا: فَدُخِلَ عَلَيْنَا يَوْمَ النَّحْرِ بِلَحْمِ بَقَرٍ، فَقُلْتُ: مَا هَذَا؟ فَقِيلَ: ذَبَحَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَنْ أَزْوَاجِهِ صحيح البخاري (2 / 173)

[4]:3484 – حَدَّثَنَا آدَمُ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنْ مَنْصُورٍ، قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ رِبْعِيَّ بْنَ حِرَاشٍ، يُحَدِّثُ عَنْ أَبِي مَسْعُودٍ، قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «إِنَّ مِمَّا أَدْرَكَ النَّاسُ مِنْ كَلاَمِ النُّبُوَّةِ، إِذَا لَمْ تَسْتَحْيِ فَاصْنَعْ مَا شِئْتَ» صحيح البخاري (4 / 177)

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