Answered by: Maulana Mohammed Haroon Hussain
Assalaam Alaikum. I have been getting waswasah regarding hurmat-e-musaahrarat and whether my parent’s marriage is broken or not. When I was about 13 years old, I touched my mother’s breast. I am very ashamed of my actions and I have asked for forgiveness for this act from Allah. May Allah have mercy on me and forgive me. I learned about hurmat-e-musaahrarat recently and since then, I have had doubts about whether my parent’s nikah is valid or not. I don’t remember whether I got an erection. I touched with lust but as best as I can remember I didn’t have an erection. Also, the touch was not directly to the skin. It was over a cloth. I think the cloth was sufficiently thick. I think I could not have felt the heat. But this incident occurred about 10 years ago. I don’t remember the details exactly.
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
In this case, hurmat e musahara has not happened even if there was an erection because you did not touch the skin nor feel the heat of the skin through the clothes1. However, you should do tawba and be particularly mindful that this sort of thing does not happen again.
Only Allah knows best
Written by Maulana Mohammed Haroon Hussain
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
1 ثم المس انما يوجب حرمة المصاهرة اذا لم يكن بينهما ثوب أما اذا كان بينهما ثوب فان كان صفيقًا لا يجد الماس حرارة الممسوس لا تثبت حرمة المصاهرة وان انتشرت آلته بذلك ، وان كان رقيقًا بحيث تصل حرارة الممسوس الى يده تثبت كذا في الذخيرة
الفتاوى الهندية – جلد 1 – ص 303 – كتاب النكاح – باب المحرمات – القسم الثاني المحرمات بالصهرية – دار الكتب العلمية