Answered by: Maulana Tahsin Alam
Please guide me about the conditions of Hurmat e Musahara.
Suppose the contact takes place with a woman.
You touch her but don’t have anything bad for her in your mind but due to contact, which took place on the back near to shoulders area, and was covered with not too thick clothes but medium, and due to her body you feel something for another woman or your mind just boosts up for other women due to her.
You desire at that time for other women but not her because she is the closest relative. At that time age of male was 18 to 20 and was totally unaware of this aspect of deen (hurmat e musahara).
what are its conditions?
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh,
Hurmatul Musaharah will be established by a mature person touching the other gender out of lust, without a thick barrier so that the body heat can be felt.
Only Allah knows best
Written by Maulana Tahsin Alam
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
 Ibn Abideen, RadulMuhtaar Ala Ad-DurilMukhtaar (MaktabahShamilah) volume 3 pg. 33.