Assalam alaykum, I have been in a very bad situation, I have a constant arguement with my parents on small, small issues, though I pray and am pious person but I can’t control myself when my parents do some mistake and are not ready to accept it and start to cover it up with something else. The basic reason for this is that I feel they don’t give clear answers to my straight questions, though I ask further on the basis of their answer more questions, so to get away with further talk they don’t answer me properly/rightly. I have heard hadeeth which says a person who is na farman of his parents will not be forgiven on the day of shab e barat. I feel very bad, but my parents don’t understand, and also I am not trying to understand them. Please help me get rid of this, I am lossing all my sawab with this sin. Please reply as early as possible. I was very unhappy yesterday on the eve of Shab e barat that I was from the 4 ppl who will not be forgiven, please help me. Jazak allah
Answer
(Fatwa: 1114/967=L/1429)
If you have squabbled with parents, you should seek their forgiveness. In future, if any matter drags you to have a discussion with them, you should talk to them with wisdom and politeness. In case they do not reply to your questions in a clear way, then also you should not treat them harshly, it is haram to misbehave the parents or to hurt them, instead you should pray saying: O’ Allah have a mercy on them the way as they looked after us in our childhood. However, if they commit a mistake you should forgive them.
Allah (Subhana Wa Ta’ala) knows Best
Darul Ifta,
Darul Uloom Deoband