What if the practical work of a child in islamic way denied by his parents like my parents dont like me to keep beard, clothes upper from ankle, to wear booski a clothe made from silk, they want me to listen music or any act which is on the extreme or the sunnah of holy prophet (p.b.u.h) ,they are like just be modern muslim and accept current culture and dont go in that brick time, they just want me social and be far from this things… should i obey thier order indeed there orders are WAJIB or what should i do? i want full descriptive answer?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
The principle in Shari’a is
لَا طَاعَةَ لِمَخْلُوقٍ فِي مَعْصِيَةِ الْخَالِق
المعجم الكبير للطبراني (18/ 170)
Translation: There is no obedience to anyone when it entails disobedience to Allah.
One cannot obey a creation while disobeying Allah. Your parents want you to do anything unislamic, you cannot obey them. Tell them you love them and care for them but you love Allah more and have to obey Allah. Although they are your parents but Allah created you and them and we have to return to Allah one day. Therefor you are concerned about what you will answer to Allah. Say all of this with greatest love and respect. You should try to get some respectful person who knows Deen to talk to your parents. It may be a good idea to obtain authentic Islamic literature of various topics and keep it within sight of your parents. Playing CDs of lectures of Ulama on Sunnah etc. will also be useful.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Immad Bin Arshad
Student Darul Iftaa
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.