Basically I need to know if my wife has the right to tell me what she wants to do as apposed to asking me
Answer:
Rasulullah [Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam] is reported to have said that the best women is she who obeys her husband and does not do anything against the wish of her husband. (Nasaaie vol.2 pg.71)
We advise you consider giving your wife permission if necessary.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai