In my family, when baby is born, we give bowls with sweetmeat & have big aqeeqa party. my husband says this is wrong.
This occasion is a very happy and joyful one. Therefore, to give presents for the newborn baby, out of love and joy is permissible.
However, to host a major feast and party at which there will be intermingling of sexes, music, women exposing their beauty, etc. is totally forbidden and prohibited.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai