I got married last …. I live in ….., and my wife is from ….., so I’m waiting for the visa for her, but this month she told me something that she didn’t tell before, she said that she lost her virginity, and it did happened by with someone, was her boyfriend, and she said it was by mistake, and that she have never had anything with him before or after that happened, she said it was the only time, and she asked to forgive her, and she said she couldn’t tell me before, and now I’m really confused, I’m lost and been thinking about it all the time. I’m asking for advice, I need to know what I should do or what best to do, please help me decide what God like me to do…?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Your wife has adopted a principled attitude of being open and transparent to you. She could have concealed the information or presented excuses for her non-virginity. She divulged to you what she felt you have the right to know. Furthermore, she sought your forgiveness. Your wife should be commended for her principled and humble attitude. You should accept her apology. However, for practical purposes, we advise you to make Istikhara on continuing the marriage. Insha-Allah, Allah will guide you to whatever is best for both of you.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.