Answer
Waiting for one year is unacceptable, it is fraught with many dangers.
Since you will have to live with your wife and in-laws for the rest of your
life, the subject should be approached in a diplomatic manner applying
wisdom. Ask the elders of your family to approach the elders of her family
to negotiate an earlier date. If her family has a good relationship with any
Aalim, then approach this Aalim and explain your situation. Perhaps he may
be able to convince them to arrange an earlier time.
May Allah Ta’ala make it easy for you.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
FATWA DEPT.