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Telling Fiancee You Love Her

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Question: Is it halal to tell your fiancee that you love her?


Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Dear questioner,

Thank you for your important question.

Before one gets married to someone (the contract itself), the interactions between the bride and the groom should be of two types. The first is looking at each other and talking in order to gauge whether or not there is compatibility. The second is purely practical communication about how and when the marriage will take place.

Whatever interaction or communication that creates, or may well create lustful thoughts, after deciding on marriage is not permissible.

Please see:

Regarding expressing one’s love for someone else, it is a kind of borderline and should be avoided if possible. It definitely shouldn’t spill over into romantic messages going back and forward.

Please see the novel “The Early Hours” by Marmaduke Pickthall for examples of innocent interactions between bride and groom before marriage.

I pray this helps.

[Ustadh] Farid

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadh Farid Dingle has completed extensive years of study in the sciences of the Arabic language and the various Islamic Sciences. During his studies, he also earned a CIFE Certificate in Islamic Finance. Over the years he has developed a masterful ability to craft lessons that help non-Arabic speakers gain a deep understanding of the language. He currently teaches courses in the Arabic Language

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