بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
(Fatwa: 1066/820/D=9/1434)
You may defend your mother against the unpleasant words. It is also lawful to stop your uncles etc who transgress the limits maintaining the Shariah requirements and fulfilling the demand of justice though through intimidation.
Allah knows Best!
Darul Ifta,
Darul Uloom Deoband
