Q: Alhamdulilah, I am happily married, however I require clarification over a matter.
I work from 8 – 5 and my wife teaches hifz in the morning and madrasah in the afternoon. She is occupied and very busy the entire day. I have no problem with her busy day and am happy to let her serve the deen of Allah Ta’ala.
However during the evenings she does not provide me with her full attention but is still busy dealing with other work. She gives off the impression that her work is more important than me and often compares myself to her.
Am I correct in telling that her I am her primary responsibility and take preference over everything else?
A: Yes, you are right in saying that. She does not understand Deen. If she understood Deen she would have given you all the attention. Work with respect and love.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)