Q: I received this message and wanted to comment back to help him correct what needs to be corrected, but I wanted some guidance on how to respond.
“True… But Muslim social norms today mean women do not interact with men therefore they do not know whom they want to marry… In the time of the Prophet and Sahabi there was much more interaction. Indeed women would pray behind men. Therefore women knew who they were marrying… We have messed up the system. In our system (not Islamic. Just ultra conservative) women are forced to marry who their parents want them to… Those marriages are technically nil and void. Woman can walk away and say I’m technically not married. Furthermore we have created huge stigma on divorce… even though this was recorded and documented all the way back to Ismail A.S. it should be so easy for a divorcee to get re married but our messed up system rejects them unfortunately… Sad”
A: The person making this comment is messing the system because of the lack of understanding of the life of the sahaabah (radhiyallahu anhum) and the pious of the past.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)