Q: A generic question about “hurmat e musahara”. I know lust is defined as the erection of the penis. Does slight movement in the penis, similar to what happens during kegel also cause hurmat e musahara when erection does not properly occur/no full erection occurs. I get anxiety and I’m scared. I’m more or less certain that I’ve never had a proper erection while touching my mother, but at the same time I’m scared of slight movements in the penis that may have occurred in the past – movements that may have occured due to my mental condition. Especially since the idea of potentially negatively impacting my parents is often on my mind when any physical contact occurs with my mother. A slightly detailed and clear answer on this issue could make the matter clearer to me as often I’m not sure what constitutes lust and it makes the matter tough for me. I’d like to think that I do not in any way want to engage in intercourse with my mother and the idea is reprehensible to me. It’s after I started reading fatwa on these that these thoughts have significantly started bothering me.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)