Q: I have this quastion and I found nobody to give me an answer. I prayed but still I’m not getting anywhere. I would just like to have your opinion.
I’m a married woman with 6 kids and now I’m 7 weeks pregnant again. I live in uk where I dont have any help to raise the kids not financially alhamdullilah but my weakness. I dont have any more patience left to have another baby as the experience I got from my 6th child. I underwent severe depression and fear that I couldn’t even have the baby on my own and had the c section and my previous pregnancy I had an emergency caesserian.
Becouse of taking care of my children I’m suffering from depression, fear and axiety that is severe. I’m being tranfered to a neurologist and I’m waiting for my appointment. This started since 2014. I’m having unexplanable headaches and pressure in my head. Honestly speaking, I cant take care of my last child. She is 2 yearsold. I hardly give her a bath or feed her. The major problem is that I dont feel like doing anything. I’m tired of this because since I started having children, I take care of them alone without any help from anybody as I dont have parents or relatives and my husband is one of those who cant do the kids responsibilities and the country I live in is everything up to me.
This lead to my health problems now that I’m becoming weaker and weak and going into deeper depression everyday. I keep doing hijama every month and seeking help here and there.
Now this pregnacy just took my life and I’m just in bed and dont feel like doing anything. I’m extremely depressed and I cant even take my tablets for depression because of this pregnany.
I cant my handle children because of my headaches which is why I need to see a neurologist as its not getting better. My gp insists that I have a rest or go on holiday. How will I rest while I have so many kids?
My mind is telling me to abort the pregnany and my husband is supporting the same as he knows how I suffer with illness… but we dont know if we are doing the right thing according to my situation. I keep looking for fatwas on websites but nothing is clear. The talk is only haram if you fear for poverty. But we dont suffer poverty alhamdullilah and not even financially. It is my weakness and illness. Please advise me what you think.
A: The reward for patiently persevering is so great that had you only known what is the reward in the hereafter then you will not mind your entire body being ripped by scissors and getting eligible for the reward. Don’t ever think of aborting. Persevere patiently and give the innocent fetus a chance. Don’t be so selfish.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)