Q: Could you please explain me this as these doubts making me sleepless and make me always think. Praise be to Allah.
It was narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) that women will form the majority of the people of Hell. It was narrated from ‘Imran ibn Husayn that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I looked into Paradise and I saw that the majority of its people were the poor. And I looked into Hell and I saw that the majority of its people are women.”(Narrated by al-Bukhari, 3241; Muslim, 273)
With regard to the reason for this, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was asked about it and he explained the reason.It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I sa.w that the majority of its people are women.” They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Because of their ingratitude (kufr).” It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 1052)
My question is if women have this habit ofbeing ungrateful or not obeying husbands then it may be a nature of womem its like Allah has created them that way cause its not about few women but many so how can Allah punish them for creating them like that.
Secondly, I think why should a wife obey her husband if they need obeidience why not wives even wife should be obeyed like if a wife wanna do something wrong if husband can stop why not wife if she don’t have that authority then don’t you think its waste to stop them as they however wont listen as Allah didn’t ask them to obey their Wife really is that what islam teaches I don’t wanna be a slave of my husband if husband deserve obeidience respect even a wife deserves I wanna know why women has to face such injustice
(Narrated by Muslim, 885) Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet said, “If I were to order anyone to prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered a woman to prostrate herself before her husband.” [At-Tirmidhi] prostrate do you know why we prostrate to Allah coz he is our master and we are his slave and here am I a slave of my husband to prostrate in front of him do we have such low status that Allah has given no one except god deserves prostration and if husband deserves why not women why not our parents who sacrifice everything for their kids every person on earth can leave us but our parents will never so why not to them
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘When a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he went to sleep angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3065; Muslim, 1436) is wife a sex toy to please him whenever hewants is it not her wish to do anything and why is it that sex is only husbands right why not wives right don’t they have those feelings they too have even they should have that right even it should obligatory for men if she calls and man refuses he too should be punished Rasulullah said: “The woman who dies in the state of her husband being pleased with her will enter Jannah .” Really if he don’t get pleased even if we die for him then still ill go to hell just cause he was not happy and am I born only for him to please him to obey and all that what ever islam teaches and why not men why its not written anywhere if wife is pleased men will get jannah why cant they be pleased or they don’t deserve to be pleased Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi) said: “0 women! Remember, those who are pious and upright amongst you they will enter Jannah before the pious men. These women will then be bathed, perfumed, and presented to their husbands on red and yellow mounts. They will have such children with them who will resemble scattered pearls.”
Presented are we models to be presented before them to use us right and what will be presented to us nothing Rasulullah said: “The best of women is one that pleases her husband when he glances at her; obeys him when he commands her not oppose him and displease him in matters regarding her body and wealth . Is that her fault is she a model to always be ready for him to use her the way he want don’t she deserves to be happy when he come home from work tired and all sweaty will she complain he is not goodlooking now Im not happy cause im not pleased looking at him no right then why is this with women And who don’t obey I don’t know what is this with word obey if I should why Cant he and do not oppose really we both are Different we both have different mindset different opinion still I cant oppose him why coz im a wife he can displease me but I cant right if he deserves to be pleased why not we
And the last question all these aree worldly things even in Akhirah men are going to get hoor what about us nothing actually we are going to be presented to them as toys right don’t we deserve something not even in world not even in akhirah
Am I a feminist as I have read the definition of feminist the girl who fights for their rights are known as feminist am I the one for questioning all about my rights I know men and women are different I agree with so many differences like a girl cant give adhan a girl cant be imaam I agree with all this but husband wife they are better half they are partners but still such low status if I have such low status in islam I may end up leaving islam which I don’t want to.
1. Allah is not answerable to you. You have the choice to be grateful or ungrateful. Nobody compels you to be ungrateful.
2. You don’t make the law, it is Allah who makes the law. It is His domain that we live in. So we listen to Him and we don’t listen to ourselves.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)