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Wife’s Disrespect for In-Laws: Seeking Islamic Guidance

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Q: My queston is related to wife not obeying her husband. We are married for more than 1 year. After my marriage, my wife don’t like my mother she has problems with my mother daily and she creates some issue on it. I understand she is new to my family and needs time to adjust. She has made a negative image about my mother in her mind and she didn’t see her positive side. I agree that sometime my mother is not right. I daily explain to my wife to please obey me and respect my mother.

My mother never asked her to cook food or to obey her. She doesn’t interfere in my life but beacuse my wife has created a negative image about her she didn’t like her. She always saysthat  aap stand nhi leta aap mujhe support nhi karta all that. I know my mothers nature. She is not like that, in every family few thing happen but my mother what she say she take it as negative. She always says that my mother is not understanding and that she is married. She needs to draw a line daily.

Now with grace of Allah she give birth to a beautiful baby girl. I thought things will change but it is going worst. My daughter is 21 days old and she doing the same thing. I don’t want to leave my mother but I don’t want to leave my wife and child. I try my best to explain to her through hadis and dua but she is not understanding. I try to explain to her what the Prophet says when your parents reach old age. Don’t say anything to them and keep patience but she is not understanding because of that my health is impacting tension depression etc. I dont know what should I do If u ask me she is loosing my respect. She is not on my expectation, she is not obeying her husband. Please tell what should I do if u ask me I dont place for her in my heart I just ask her to respect my family she is not doing so daily we have fight I am tensed and in pressure please suggest me the positon solution in lighting of islam


A: Don’t fall in their arguments and fight. Show respect and courtesy to them. Make it appear to your wife as though your mother loves and respects her, and make it appear to your mother that your wife respects her and cares for her.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.

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