Q: I’m a 16 year old boy from Pakistan. I am bestfriends with a girl from my school and she is a year junior to me since three years. A few months back, we found out about our feelings towards one another and we confessed. Althougg we have the utmost respect towards each other we have kissed few times. Now we are regretting it because we know of the sin. And I feel ashamed because I have a sister and I dont want anyone to do that to her. Please know that I really love her and I have planned a future with her and only her. When we confessed, she talked to her parents immediately and I talked to my mom immediately. Although her parents have agreed, my mother agrees on sending a proposal only when I am of age. I have to talk to my father now because I dont want us to indulge in further gunah. I want to have a halal relationship with her as soon as possible. Please guide me in the light of Islam as to how can I convince my parents about sending a proposal at this age because as far as I know, Islam hasn’t opposed early marriages, and how do I talk to my father and assure him that although we are at a tender age, my feelings towards her are pure. I can’t cut ties with her after all this. Please help me.
A: Repent to Allah Ta’ala for the sin you have committed and make a firm resolve that you will not repeat the sin in the future. All premarital relationships are haraam in Islam. The solution to save you from falling into sin is to make nikah.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)